Fatherhood, Abandonment, and the Cycle of Relationships
Why do fathers leave us and then return with words like, "Oh, you're my flesh and blood, help me, I'm your dad"?
I, for one, don't consider my biological father as my dad. To me, my grandfather was much more of a father than this person who hasn't called or written to me in 14 years, hasn't even wished me a happy birthday. This person who falsified documents to claim his salary was 100 rubles, not 100,000, so he could pay me 38 rubles in child support.
You know, we were so surprised when we accidentally found a bank account with 4,500 rubles in my name. We thought someone had mistakenly transferred money there.
And then it turned out to be all my child support for seven years 😉
So why does all this happen? Want my opinion?
It's because there's a shortage of men in our country. For every able-bodied, capable, even slightly healthy man, there are three to four women.
Yes, technically, the number of boys and girls born is about equal. BUT!
Some don't even make it to 30-40, let alone 50-60.
Some are in prison. We women don't use them as men, so the ratio of men to women shifts further.
The military. A large number of men are constantly drawn away from society into this sector. So there's another dent in women's choices.
Alcoholics and addicts. That's pretty self-explanatory.
So, men can get away with anything. Grow a beer belly, not work, drink, and the woman will still be with him. After all, there's the "home hearth," "any home is better than none," and "how can you live without female happiness?"
In short, it's a vicious circle. Women are willing to accept anything, even abusive behavior. It's accepted that a woman should be "wise," which translates to "put up with everything, stay silent to keep a man."
And any guy who leaves his family with children knows that a crowd of women awaits him around the corner, women who don't care that he abandoned his family.
Unfortunately, complete families are very rare. But I don't believe this situation can change for the better. Write your opinion in the comments!